In a
recent interview, the magnificent director Erika Lust reminded people
"that porn is exaggerated fiction, done by sex gladiators. You are not
going to be able to do exactly the same as they are doing." Filmed sex
can look uncomfortable - the bodies contorted for the best camera angle,
heads and faces out of frame which cuts us off from the emotions of the
scene. If I'm going to watch a sex act, I want to see how much
pleasure the people involved are having - not just genitals.
I feel the goal of all arousing material isn't to make something that
looks like sex, but something that reminds the reader/viewer on how sex
feels. For example, I recently read a couple of books where a
heterosexual couple had hot steamy sex against the wall. And oh, was it a
yummy scene, let me tell you. The author captured the yearning, the
desire, the absolute hunger those two had for each other. They simply
couldn't wait to get into bed, they had to have each other NOW.
The author made me think about how sex feels, not how it looks. Because
when I think about how heterosexual intercourse against a wall looks, I
start worrying about the man's knees and if he will need a ice pack at
the end (why yes, I have had a sex injury, why do you ask?).
In this
upcoming series, I'm going to explore what we need to unlearn in order
to create not just great sex on the page, but also in your heart.
Erika Lust's interview:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/CQydxnoIwLh/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
