Yeah, yeah, we all know I have issues around worrying and over-thinking. I've done lots of good brain work, and I've found ten cognitive fallacies that contribute to my tendencies.
(swiped shamelessly from Feeling Good by David Burns, MD)
1. All-or-nothing thinking aka dichotomous thinking:
A tendency to evaluate things in black & white, absolute categories. Either you get straight A's, or you're a failure. Either the room is spotless, or it is a sty.
2. Overgeneralization:
"You arbitrarily conclude that one thing that happened to you once will occur over and over again....The pain of rejection is generated almost entirely from overgeneralization. In its absence, a personal affront is temporarily disappointing, but cannot be seriously disturbing."
3. Mental Filter aka: selective abstraction:
"You pick out a negative detail from a situation, and dwell on it exclusively, thus perceiving that the whole situation is negative."
4. Disqualifying the positive
For example - how most of us respond to compliments.
5. Jumping to conclusions by
a. Mind Reading and
b. Fortune telling
What, you mean I *can't* read people's minds and foresee the future??? Dammit!
6. Magnification and Minimization aka catastrophic thinking
OH MY GOD!
7. Emotional Reasoning
You feel it, therefore, it must be a fact.
8. Should statements
Motivation via shoulds sucks.
9. Labeling and Mislabeling
"I'm a ____" fill in the blank.
10.Personalization
The Mother of Guilt - you assume responsibility for a negative even when there is no basis for doing so.
I can tell from your post that you and I haven't done lunch in way too long.
ReplyDeleteI need my Linda time.
Enormous hug to you darling.
I need my Jason time! Let's get together *soon*. :)
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